We’ve all experienced it, unfortunately. Betrayal – it’s one of the greatest heartaches we as humans can feel. It encapsulates the antithesis of trust, loyalty, confidence and security. We all have words for betrayal, but a true definition is more nuanced. There is a sliding scale of the act, from lies of omission to deeds worthy of Iago, Shakespeare’s most sinister villain, who betrayed Othello’s trust. The emotional impact of any form of betrayal is devastating.
At the heart of it, betrayal destroys trust. And since trust is the foundation of all relationships, you can see why betrayal does such damage. Without trust, relationships are impossible—so without trust, betrayal is impossible. Which is why, when we are confronted with it and the aftermath, there are varying emotions and stages we have to travel through in order to make it out the other side – similar to grief.
While we feel devastated, gutted, and in some cases unable to move on, it’s possible to “bounce” forward and to do so better than before. In our new book, Betrayed: A Survivor’s Guide to Lying, Cheating, & Double Dealing, we outline how someone bounces forward from betrayal and what you deserve to feel moving forward as you go on to live the life you deserve.
We’ve packaged up where you will arrive, using B.O.U.N.C.E:
- Bold in asserting what is important and necessary for your survival.
- Optimistic about the future and unwilling to let others cloud your vision with their concern.
- Undaunted in finding your safe space.
- Nimble in recognizing opportunities for your future.
- Courageous in defending your value and holding on to your identity.
- Empowered to become the person you want to be.
Eventually, you’ll have the ability to be objective about what happened and feel each aspect of “bouncing.” You’ll be able to think and talk about the betrayer without the heat of intense emotion. Only then will you be able to realize you were never to blame. All blame is owned by the betrayer, not you. Through reflection, distance, self-confidence, and self-knowledge, you’ll survive…and move forward. You’ll know when you become “over it,” and when it’s time to shape your brand-new future. We want to help you get to that place where you officially “bounce.” Learn more by visiting, bouncefrombetrayal.com.